I wish a happy Mother's Day to all the mothers! Thanks for all the wiped noses, the changed diapers, the birthing, the advice, the hugs, the counsels, the "Yes" when Dad said "No", the otherworldly love, the chastisement, the food, the knowledge of how to make food on your own, the laughter. A young and emotionally sensitive Alex (Not yet hardened by the cold rationality of society) had had a very bad week at school. He was really dreading going the next day in the morning. After a late and miserable start to the morning, Alex hurried out the door holding his breakfast (due to his own dawdling on getting something healthier)
*Note: The writer of this email doesn't advocate truancy, nor, in a hypocritical twist, being late to things*
Firstly, I am staying in Caen for another 6 weeks after which I will pretty likely change cities. This is my companion's last 6 weeks and I am his finale companion. The two sister missionaries are sticking around here in Caen. However, we did lose Elder Wheeler our former district leader who is being shipped off to Strasbourg. He was someone who had really inspired us to be better missionaries, better people, and was a good friend. Some new fellow is taking his spot in Cherbourg and his former companion is the new district leader.
|The number we're each holding up corresponds to the number of changes (roughly six week periods) we have completed|
We met our homie George, who we met while he responded to natures call in some nearby shrubbery. We were out prowling the streets looking for people to persuade into learning and believing the same things we do ... We had some luck in that we had met friendly and nice people up until this point. Then ahead of us, an old man (and not the eccentric back-to-the-future type but more of the Scroogish black-licorice-lover) veers off his route and disappears in some medium hedges. A very very awkward greeting later and we are happily chatting. After hearing the word Jesus we were treated to quite the stream of profanities. He threw out a complaint about religion (ex: people who died before Christianity don't have a chance, church's steal money through obligatory tithes, original sin, etc...) and then we would discuss it with him sharing our thoughts and opinions. His heart really softened during the conversation. Turns out he is an organist and has spent most of his life in Catholic Churches. We ended by exchanging phone numbers, and he offered to sell us an organ—the instrument that is.
Explaining to our Russian friend that the American themed barbecue we held a few Saturday's back was not the same thing as the Fourth of July was more difficult than anticipated. Despite that, we had a wonderful turnout. Lots of people came, lots of people invited their friends, many of the people we meet with came. Using bald eagles and sheer patriotism as fuel we roasted some burgers and hot dogs— though the latter were profaned by baguettes in lieu of hot dog buns. Combined with the Jello and Kool Aid we prepared it was a feast. The Jello was particularly fascinating to the French. Everyone asked what it was, how one ate it, where it came from. Remy was particularly enchanted by the jiggling. (See the jovial mustached fellow in the photo below)
All in all it was a wonderful chance for people to meet each other, to meet other people, make friendships, fix some rendez-vous's, etc... The French may be good at revolting but they do not know how to grill. Minor charring occurred.
And with those few paragraphs giving little tastes of life, I transition now to the 25% review:
My mission has been the hardest, the most fun, and the all around coolest experience of my life. Nothing I have ever done or seen has affected me the way this has. I am so very grateful for all the events and contributions that have given me this incredible opportunity. I have done no work more satisfying in my life. As much as grass cutting and frozen yoghurt selling filled the soul, this experience has taught me who I really am, what I really want, and how to find peace and happiness regardless of the circumstances. I have learned how to work in a way I didn't know before. I have felt and learned about a level of disappointment I didn't know existed. I have learned how to forgive better. And I am sure each thing just listed will be largely redefined again by the halfway mark.
The last quarter of a year has been the fastest and most incredible experience of my life.
-Eaten a grotesque amount of French pastries and bread
-Gained weight (relatively speaking)
-Drank cranberry juice sitting in a parking lot while a woman found hope again
-Gotten absolutely destroyed by a world ranked professional board game player in his shop while sharing stories explaining how we found our beliefs
-Seen the Eiffel Tower and the view from it
-Met people from every continent save Antartica
-Stood where WWII happened
-Helped an old lady carry stuff
-Seen William the Conqueror
-Learned how to understand another language
-Learned how to pretend to speak another language
-Added a noticeable percentage to my "types of animal's eaten" list
-Seen just how big and how small the world can be in a way that no amount of imagining, wondering, or documentary-viewing ever could provide me.
-Mowed a lawn
I have learned a little something about growth, about endurance, about the potential of each individual. To quote an excerpt from a personal letter written by the greatest old man who ever lived, Patrick Hacker, "you need to believe that you can do more than you ever thought possible." You don't need to run faster than you can but I will tell you that you can run a lot faster than you think. Trials and hard times are so often viewed as negative things, as obstacles only. The word weakness leaves such a bitter taste in the mouth. Though I testify to you that the opposite is true. Endurance, failures, tragedies, doing hard things, changing your life— these are not the worst parts of life, but the most purifying and educational doctrines. It is your choice to make them such.
And you are not alone in this either. That is another thing my mission has taught me. While we as humans are the coolest and greatest treasure on this earth, we cannot succeed alone. And we are not asked to. Nor are we asked to succeed quickly or perfectly. We have our families, our friends, and the goodness of a loving deity, a God, to help us. And one of those three will never abandon us, even when we are alone. For example: a sheltered Wyoming-raised boy lost in a foreign country. I was not alone. I am not alone and neither are you.
Sometimes the way to fix things is just to go to sleep and start again the next day.
I have walked an awful lot here on my mission. I have been rebuked pretty harshly at times. I have been hungry, drenched by rain, canceled on, disappointed, and many other bad things. It is not those that I remember right now though. It's the friends I have made, the city and culture I have fallen in love with, the people who I have seen change their lives, the love I have seen, the emotions I have felt. I could prattle on all day about the things I have, will, and will continue to cherish on my mission. It is your turn to find things you cherish in your own missions. And if you aren't on a mission right now I encourage you to find some direction.
I send you all my love and I will see you in while!
Happy Mother's Day!
Elder Alex Hacker
|Dressed in whites for a baptism|
BONUS: A few highlight phrases that could be put on the cover of the book of my mission emails when it is finally written and finished:
"5 out of 5 stars."
"A groundbreaking work of staggering genius"
"Who reads this junk?"
"Why are there random weeks where there is nothing written?"
"Pretty alright at times!
[Alex got to Skype call home for Mother's Day and so the family got a great chance to visit with him. We also got to meet his companion and the nice local member, Jean, who let them use his apartment and WiFi connection to make the Skype calls home]